Sophie von Haselberg in “Love… Reconsidered”.Photo:GOOD DEED ENTERTAINMENT
GOOD DEED ENTERTAINMENT
The daughter ofBette Midlerand artistMartin von Haselbergdoesn’t shy away from acknowledging where she comes from. “I can’t help who my parents are. I was born and they were who they were, and that’s that,” she tells PEOPLE exclusively.
“I also can’t help how much I love acting,” continues the performer, 37. “So those two things are at work all the time.”
And when promoting her screen work — like the new rom-comLove… Reconsidered(in theaters now and on demand Tuesday) — von Haselberg knows questions about her parentage are going to come up. “Pretending like the conversation is not going on, to me, it just seems like that is sort of adding to the shame of it.”
Instead of letting nepotism “be the elephant in the room,” von Haselberg embraces its existence. “Confronting it head on to me feels like the healthiest way to deal with it," she says.
The Los Angeles-born, New York-based von Haselberg has starred inPose,American Horror Story, Woody Allen’sIrrational Manand Amanda Kramer’s 2022 filmGive Me Pity!The latter “one-woman wild disco horror fantasia,” she tells PEOPLE, “really changed things” for her and Midler, 78.
“Growing up, my mom was very much like, ‘You should not go into show business. It’s perilous, it’s awful. Don’t do it.’” After studying sociology and East Asian studies at Yale University and working in advertising in China, von Haselberg realized it was time to come out to her parents as an aspiring actor.
“I really got into this headspace of, ‘If I ever went down that road, it would just be nonstop comparison to my mom,’ which sounds absolutely awful… But when I was living in China, I could not stop this voice in my head thinking about acting.”
(Left to right:) Bette Midler and Sophie von Haselberg in 2022.Bruce Glikas/WireImage
Bruce Glikas/WireImage
Before auditioning for the Yale School of Drama, she told Midler her dream, “which had all the shame wrapped up in it of admitting to them that I wanted to do this thing,” she says.
“It wasn’t actually until my mom saw [Give Me Pity!], I felt, that we could actually meet on the same level together as artists, as actors… that required so much of me that I think her seeing that forced her to realize, ‘Oh, this is a thing that my daughter is genuinely in pursuit of. It’s not sort of a flight of fancy.’”
She grins. “I would never say we’re peers because her body of work speaks for itself in a way that I feel that I’m just getting started. But I feel that we can meet as artists, as peers.”
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“We don’t need men to complete us, of course — become a full person first! And maybe then you can find a great partner who actually, hopefully likes you for the full self that you are, not the constrained version of yourself that you think will be attractive.”
(Left to right:) Sophie Von Haselberg and Bette Midler in 2019.Theo Wargo/WireImage
Before tying the knot with Harry J. N. Guinness in anintimate weddingin 2020, adds von Haselberg, “I was obsessed with being single, I didn’t want to be in a relationship. And then my husband came along and ruined that whole thing, but whatever!”
“I thought a lot about that, and I drew a lot on that idea of just that feeling of being a failure,” she adds, “which I’ve certainly felt in my life.”
Love… ReconsideredcostarsColton Haynes,Javier Muñoz, Luke Gulbranson, Julia Coffey and Judy Gold.
source: people.com
